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Meditations
Show your gratitude
Why wait? Show your gratitude today. If someone has been kind, thank him or her today. Yes, we can wait and buy that
person dinner next week, But how about writing an e-mail this afternoon or leaving a message on a telephone answering machine
telling how much you appreciate the kind words or deeds? We cannot show gratitude without sharing it with someone. When we
show our gratitude, it’s a way of sharing our joy with that person. Even when we do something as simple as burning a candle to
show gratitude to (Higher Power), it shares our joy with everyone who sees the flame of the candle. It strengthens their faith and reminds them to show their gratitude, too.
Make showing and sharing your gratitude a part of your life. If someone does something nice for you, share your happiness with
that person. Send a card or make a phone call. If you believe that a prayer has been answered by (Higher Power), share your
gratitude with (Higher Power). Tell someone, or thank (Higher Power) publicly at your worship service. If you have had a victory
in your recovery, show your gratitude by sharing it with others in your group. Then share your gratitude with them for the help
they’ve given, too.
Demonstrate gratitude in your actions every day. Gratitude is more than just a thought process and more than just a Sunday-morning church activity. Demonstrate your gratitude through your compassion, and your tolerance. Gratitude strengthens and supports our relationships with (Higher Power) andwith other people. Make a commitment to show your gratitude by sharing it
with others whenever you have the opportunity.
We can show our gratitude for life in even our smallest actions. Find a way to demonstrate your gratitude to the universe.
Feed the birds! Action gives life the ideas. When we start to look for ways to show our gratitude, we will find more and more to
be grateful for. Gratitude is a form of self-expression that must be shared. We cannot have an attitude of gratitude without
having an object of that gratitude. Why wait? Show your gratitude today by sharing how grateful you are.
(Higher Power), today I will show you how grateful I am.
Stress Management Health Center
Stress Management
People who don't manage stress well can have headaches, stomach pain, sleeping problems, illness, and depression. You can manage stress by journaling, meditating, exercising, talking to others, or engaging in a hobby. Stress is a physical, mental, and emotional
response to life's changes and demands. Stress is experienced in levels. Low levels may not be noticeable at all. Occasional, moderate stress can be positive and challenge people to act in creative and resourceful ways. High levels can be harmful, leading to chronic
disease.
What happens when you are stressed? Stress is what you feel when you have to handle more than you are used to. When you are stressed, your body responds as though you are in danger. It makes hormones that speed up your heart, make you breathe faster, and give you a burst of energy. This is called the fight-or-flight stress response. Some stress is normal and even useful. Stress can help if
you need to work hard or react quickly. For example, it can help you win a race or finish an important job on time. But if stress happens too often or lasts too long, it can have bad effects. It can be linked to headaches, an upset stomach, back pain, and trouble
sleeping. It can weaken your immune system, making it harder to fight off disease. If you already have a health problem, stress may make it worse. It can make you moody, tense, or depressed. Your relationships may suffer, and you may not do well at work or school.
What can you do about stress? The good news is that you can learn ways to manage stress. To get stress under control: Find out what is causing stress in your life. Look for ways to reduce the amount of stress in your life. Learn healthy ways to relieve stress or reduce its harmful effects. How do you measure your stress level? Sometimes it is clear where stress is coming from. You can count
on stress during a major life change such as the death of a loved one, getting married, or having a baby. But other times it may not be
so clear why you feel stressed. It's important to figure out what causes stress for you. Everyone feels and responds to stress differently.
Keeping a stress journal may help. Get a notebook, and write down when something makes you feel stressed. Then write how you
reacted and what you did to deal with the stress. Keeping a stress journal can help you find out what is causing your stress and how
much stress you feel. Then you can take steps to reduce the stress or handle it better. To find out how stressed you are right now, use this Interactive Tool: What Is Your Stress Level?
How can you avoid stress? Stress is a fact of life for most people. You may not be able to get rid of stress, but you can look for ways
to lower it. You might try some of these ideas: Learn better ways to manage your time. You may get more done with less stress if you make a schedule. Think about which things are most important, and do those first. Find better ways to cope. Look at how you have
been dealing with stress. Be honest about what works and what does not. Think about other things that might work better. Take good care of yourself. Get plenty of rest. Eat well. Don't smoke. Limit how much alcohol you drink. Try out new ways of thinking. When
you find yourself starting to worry, try to stop the thoughts. Work on letting go of things you cannot change. Learn to say "no." Speak up.
Not being able to talk about your needs and concerns creates stress and can make negative feelings worse. Assertive
communication can help you express how you feel in a thoughtful, tactful way. Ask for help. People who have a strong network of
family and friends manage stress better.
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Relationships
In a healthy relationship, one important element is communication. If you remember when we first met our spouse or partner, we were so thrilled to be with them that nothing else mattered. We listened to each other, we talked about everything, we did things together, everything we did all contained the special romance that we needed and desired. Then as time goes by, we are so tied up in
our obligations and daily activities, we begin to talk less with each other. Then we take on more responsibilities or even have children
to come into our lives. And we begin to get out of our once dating mode of the relationship and we start to do less activities together.
And if we aren't careful, the communication gets less and less. This doesn't effect all relationship but it does in most cases where we
pay less attention to our partner and more on ourselves.
Eventually weare doing our own thing and not with our partner. Example: COMMUNICATION + ACTIVITIES + TOGETHER + ROMANCE = A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP even if you have children or not, and they are part of this example with the both of you. LESS AND LESS COMMUNICATION - LESS AND LESS ACTIVITIES TOGETHER - LESS AND LESS ROMANCE OVER
TIME = A STRESSED OR FAILING MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP.
Once we add addictions, like drugs, or alcohol, then the marriage or relationship begins to go down hills to where you feel that
there isn't hope anymore. Stress forms then and can then in some cases vilence comes in and then some-one gets hurt. We begin to
fall out of love, instead of in love. Some do not feel like our spouse loves us anymore and we start to look elsewhere for love, where it
is cheating and or divorce. If we do not get councilling or rehab the relationship is doomed. Some of us look to support groups then to
try to get our lives back to where we once was before our lives started to deteriate. Then we ask ourselves, what went wrong, what
changed? Well the little things that ment alot in the beginning of the relationship was taken for granted over a period of time. As said
in the beginning, communcations was the key element that made the relationship and once it got less and less, the relationship got
less and less. Some of the cases that cause failing relationships are codependency.
Being Co-Dependent where we know it or not is a deeply rooted disfunction of our past coming out to cause problems in our
present lifestyles. Where is was childhood traumas, abuse, tragodies or abuse in our adulthood by someone we love. Abuse can be
physical or even mental. Those of us that go through this period of time begin to loose who we are and our identity. We loose our self worth, we are controlled by the other person, we are mentally or physically abused. Then the relationship is over, unless we
remain in the relationship, scared to leave it. We do not deserve this. We are important, we can love and be loved. We do not need
to keep ourselves in a unhealthy relationship and being hurt. There is hope out there and we can get our identity back. We can feel
happy and loved again. I once experienced these same processes that made me feel like I was on rock bottom. I made a change
better for me and my family. I am happy again and I found love again, and I can say I am the most happiest in my life with my
partner now than I have ever been in my whole life. Don't get me wrong, a relationship is what you put into it. We have differences
at times. But we do not let them control each other and we communicate with each other. And if we are angry at the moment we
take a time out, we give each other space until we get over whatever the cause of the problem and we go forward. This is what works
in my relationship.
Each relationship is different and whatever salutions that work best in your relationship, this is what works for you. We learn in
life what makes us happy, we do not dwell on the bad things, we move foreward to have the happiest life possible for life goes by fast
and all we deserve is to be happy. Remember, if you experience anything that makes you unhappy, sad, and or depressed in your relationships, then know this, there is help out there, someone to listen to you and you can be happy again. Please, do not be scared
to get help, get out of harms way, get out of that bad relationship, you do deserve better. YOU ARE IMPORTANT.. remember that
and you are LOVED.